Father and son gay

It was 15 months later that I started that same conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an year-old. The distance was to create some space between my now ex-wife, who struggled being in proximity to me.

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My kids attended a very conservative, private Christian school. True Gay Story | Father and Son Relationship” follows Alex’s courageous journey of coming out and the fragile. I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife.

My kids listened and followed their lead. Gay stories, lgbtq+ stories, love stories That weekend was one of the most confusing yet strangely thrilling times of my life. Gay friends were just friends -- respected but their relationships not necessarily discussed.

Homosexuality wasn't a topic well discussed in our family. It all began on a quiet Friday evening when Mum left for her trip. The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the fact that at that point in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions.

I never thought much of my dad being alone with me. Scott Takacs, a year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his sons. In many ways, it a loving place for them, but I came to realize that teachers spoke openly against gay culture and textbooks labeled homosexuality as sinful and evil.

With many emotions and stress, I accepted her request to keep the reason for our divorce -- due to me being gay -- a secret for at least another year. Even prior to coming out, it was hard for me to hear my kids come home with stories of teachers degrading gay marriage or gay people, to see it in their workbooks, reinforcing the bias against being gay.

There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of understanding and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man. Read about his journey below in his own words.

It was a normal part of life—Mum’s job took her out of town often, and Dad was always the one holding down the fort. It was wrought with the happiness of finally telling the closest person in my true identity, while simultaneously ripping her world out from under her.

This included keeping it from our kids and her side of the family. It wasn't necessarily a bad topic, it just wasn't discussed. Chicago offered the stability I needed in a job, friendship and at this point, a new relationship that all contributed to my healing in this new gay world.

Over 15 months, I had finalized the divorce, moved again and taken a new job based in Chicago, miles away from my boys. I did my best to encourage my kids to understand that God made everyone just the way they were supposed to be, and that God loves everyone.

A gay love story about hiding your truth, finding courage, and choosing love. When the moment to break the news to my kids finally came, I had a lot of issues to navigate. I had to temper my words when situations came up with my kids' education, out of fear it would disrupt their experience in school.

We’d spend those weekends.

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We chose the school because we wanted to give our kids access to the best education and a strong foundation to take on the world. An Indiana man who went viral in November for sharing a voicemail he received from his father after coming out in a heartfelt letter is sharing his story exclusively with PEOPLE.

We were all adjusting to a new, modern family, more like a family in transition. Gay marriage was in the news, but not discussed in our house other than the occasional negative comment from a close relative. I had decided I needed to be safe, free of the stress and emotionally sane to be a good father to my boys, even if that meant transitioning from every involved dad day-to-day to a day shuttling between Chicago and the suburbs of Detroit multiples times a month.

It had been a long 15 months since coming out to my wife, an experience I unfortunately wouldn't describe as positive, fun or something I ever want to repeat. The last thing I wanted was for my kids to be treated differently because they had a gay dad, which I felt was a possibility.